Do we lie or make excuses to ourselves and to others? If we lie, how does this affect our wellbeing? Will it come back to us vigorously by making us sick, struggle to sleep, feel depressed, insecure, the need to appear important and likeable to others, be mean, have a crappy attitude, or gain sympathy. As a wise friend told me once, a liar needs a good memory. The stress of remembering what we lied about, and it can come back and hurt us big time. When we make excuses, we can finagle our way out of a confrontation, not having to tell people or family what is really going on, convince ourselves we will get back to “it” soon, or repeatedly delaying things that really need to be addressed. Another common thing is when lie about your mental health or express how you really feel by denying therapy, and saying this common excuse – why should I pay or throw away money for therapy? But, still struggle with daily life and resting. What we project out from our attitude and behavior glues the actions to people around you, personal and professional. Resting to prepare the mind and body for the next day becomes a constant battle.

I make excuses, but I am not sure if I lie. I often say I am ok when there are days, I know I am not ok. When I make excuses or lie about how I am feeling, my attitude and behavior shows a different projection, it confuses the people I am around. For me, my chronic disease is unpredictable. I have 3 diagnosed autoimmune diseases.  Each day is a new set of emotions, repeated feelings, mobility issues and figuring out how to do things to still maintain my independence. I lie because I don’t want to hear or see anyone’ s suggestions on how to cope or do something because they do not have MS and the other autoimmune diseases. They truly do not understand, I must understand that as well and be patient, more considerate, and I know they are doing their very best. Is this a lie or an excuse?

I am around people more and every day I see things. I am a very observant person more now than ever, I see stuff and am told things that will happen, or the plans are in the works, yet nothing has been done or goals are no closer to completion. So, if I say something, will they have the same attitude and feelings as I do about the MS? Are their feelings and actions valid? My thing is why the denial or delay?

Another thing I think we can all relate to is food, diet, getting healthy, changing our lifestyle in food, losing weight etc. Why the constant starting over? Especially when we know and have seen how much better we feel when we do something healthy and right.  The constant falling off the wagon and making excuses or are we lying about our food issues? These are things I am sure we constantly ask ourselves with no answers. I know I ask myself this all the time. I know and have seen what and how my body functions when things are right. So why excuses or lies?