Today, I thought about some of the obstacles I had to overcome with having MS. One of my biggest pet peeves is that people often tell me “you are using your MS as an excuse for everything”.

Sometimes I find these things out from other people because some are afraid to say it to my face. I think that those kinds of people that do these things are people that have no empathy for others, it is all about them. These types of people are not in my life anymore because they are negative forces of energy that drain all the positive energy out of me. I figured this out the hard way, after reading the book “Lean on Me” by Nancy Davis – she had to leave her husband because he just did not understand what MS is and his attitude was draining her to the point it was unhealthy. I realized that I had some people in my life that have upset me so much that have caused me to have bouts of depression, being so unhappy about the friendship and always having to constantly be on guard so that I wouldn’t offend someone about something I had done. It became to the point I almost was going crazy and I was so unhappy. My doctor told me I had to make some heavy decisions about what to do with my health, if I was going to continue on this path I would definitely become bed-ridden with MS flare-ups every day.

I chose positive energy and took control of my life and forced the negativity out of my life. These people are no longer a part of my life, I have blocked all their negativity and no longer allow them to control my feelings or me. How dare they make me explain and defend myself for something I have absolutely no control over. I cannot control the MS flareups. I should not have to explain anything to anyone. They should accept and understand how I am feeling and not throw that back in my face ever!

Now I surround myself with people that respect my MS and me. That is the most important thing you could ever to do yourself. I should never ever have to explain to anyone why I feel the way we do, this is something we have to life with everyday and our family and friends need to accept that. If my friends cared they would pick up a book about MS and read on it. Do some research on it. Be a friend. We have bad days, we have good days, we have poor-me days and we have I’m-on-top-of-the-world days. To demean or put down someone because of MS, this person needs to be flushed out of your life forever! I come first in my life, then everything else falls into place.